Hey, its brad browning here and im a marriage and breakup expert from vancouver, Canada. And in this tutorial, Im going to teach you how to prevent separation or divorce and save your marriage. This is obviously going to be a huge topic and Im going to cover as much as I can in this tutorial. So sit tight and be sure to watch this entire clip, because Im going to teach you things that most couples will never know about building a loving marriage.
First of all, let me tell you who this tutorial is for. this tutorial is for people whose husband or wife announced that theyre no longer happy in their marriage. You may have heard painful things like, Im just not happy anymore, I dont love you, or Im leaving you. Or, maybe theyve already left you. No matter the case, I know how extremely difficult, stressful, and heartbreaking this situation is and I know how hopeless you might feel at this very moment. So Im going to start off this long tutorial by telling you.
That there is light at the end of this long tunnel. with the proper guidance, help, and attitude, it is possible to turn your marriage around despite how adamant your spouse may be on divorce. I know this because Ive seen thousands of so called hopeless couples turn it around and I know exactly how they did it. With that being said, rebuilding a broken marriage is a rocky road. Sometimes, things can get a little worse before they get better, and it takes a lot of devotion on your part.
To make things better. however, i promise you that if you watch this whole tutorial and follow my advice very closely, youll have the best chance possible of rebuilding that marriage you and your spouse deserve. But before I get into what TO do to save your marriage, I first need to tell you about what NOT to do. The vast majority of married couples that I coach commit almost all of these very damaging mistakes. And I know that some of you might be in a situation where your spouse.
Isnt willing to work on the marriage, but in a minute, ill tell you why thats okay, and why its even more important for you to learn these common mistakes before you go down the road of rebuilding a newer, happier marriage. Some of this stuff you may already know, but its important to remember these mistakes before you cause any further damage to your marriage and these are tips that will have an immediate impact on your relationship.
I like to call these mistakes my big marital mistakes. Big Marital Mistakes 1 Initiating needless conflict with your spouse. When youre trying to fix a broken marriage and youre feeling desperate, chances are things can spiral out of control very easily (and I think you know what Im talking about). You think that if you could just talk to your spouse about all your problems and find common ground, your marriage will magically fix itself and get better. But usually, this isnt the.
Case. While communicating with your spouse is important in rebuilding a marriage, what your marriage does NOT need right now is another argument or fight. Even if your partner says something antagonizing or wants to bring up a touchy sticky issue at the moment, do your best to avoid conflict politely. Dont ignore your spouse or discount any of their concerns, but you need to ensure that the discussion doesnt end up in a screaming match. You.
Can say something along the lines of, i know this is a real concern right now and I want to resolve this issue, but can we discuss this later? Try and be as nonconfrontational as possible at least for now until you learn how you can manage how to handle your arguments later. Ill get to what I call my Dispute Defusing System later in this tutorial. If you have any questions or concerns about this common mistake, please be sure to ask questions in the comments section below. Ill do my.
4 Ways to Save Your Marriage Prevent Divorce or Separation
Whether your spouse has told you that theyre no longer happy, or youre simply suspecting that they may soon calls it quits, Im here to tell you how you can single handedly save your marriage. My name is Brad Browning, Im a relationship coach, marriage expert, and author of the bestselling Mend the Marriage program. Over the years Ive worked with many individuals wanting to save their marriage, and one thing Ive repeatedly encountered is the common.
Belief that one spouse cannot do it alone. well, im here to tell you otherwise. in fact, I have seen many marriages saved when one of the partners takes action even if the other has refused to keep trying. Today Im going to share with you four ways to save your marriage on your own. Number 1: Accept the Situation Its perfectly normal to have a hard time accepting that your spouse feels the way they.
Do. and a common reaction is trying to convince them that things can get better. however, this is actually the worst thing you can do in your situation. As tempting as it may be, crying and begging for your spouse to give your marriage another chance will not change their mind. Reacting to the news angrily also wont help. Since your spouse is already past the point of believing change is possible, your desperation will have no impact on your them. Instead, these types of reactions will make you appear weak.
And out of control. If you want to save your marriage, you will not get there through pity, cruel words, or dramatic actions. Its okay for your spouse to know that youre upset about the situation, but its more important for them to know that you have control of your feelings. To save your marriage you need to accept the situation and acknowledge that you played a role in creating your marital problems.
Number 2: build resilience Once you have overcome the initial shock and accepted the situation at hand, you then need to create a plan to save your marriage. Start by building strategies to take care of yourself, and find a way to maintain a positive outlook. If you can do this, then youll eliminate the one thing you dont want to do give your spouse more reason to want to leave you.
Focus on staying positive, maintaining your dignity, and taking care of yourself emotionally, physically and mentally. Everyone has a different way of doing this, but find what works for you and and manage your emotions. If youre interested in learning more about managing your emotions and devloping an action plan, visit my website MarriageGuy and watch the full length tutorial presentation. I also offer 1on1 coaching, so if youre interested in finding out more about it and.
My availability, visit marriageguy /coaching. ill be sure to put both urls in the tutorial description below. Number 3: Commit to Change You know that popular saying, Be the change you want to see. Well thats exactly what you need to do to save your marriage. Look closely at your behaviour in the relationship. Ask yourself in which ways you can change.
To create positive responses from your spouse, and what behavioural habits your spouse reacts negatively to. Whether you know it or not, you and your spouse communicate in a revolving stimulus a response pattern, if you will. What you do and say is the stimulus. Your partners reaction is the response. And then you react to their reaction and so on. The same thing occurs when your partner does or says something. Over time, the two of you have developed a.