Pillai:gt;gt; Relationship Problems are alsodue to the ancestor’s unhappiness. The ancestors may have passed away with these problems,either the father’s side or the mother’s side. So that issue will also become yourissue. Even if you don’t get a boyfriend or a girlfriend, or your married life is troublesomein relationship, it’s due to the unhappiness of the ancestors who passed away with thisproblem. So no matter what you do to address this problem through external means, or rationalisticmeans, such as going to Psychologists and Counselors: they will provide only a verylimited and temporary solution. The root cause for relationship problems is the unhappinessof the ancestors who died with this problem,
and they are coming to this earth plane duringthis time of â€˜Mahalaya’. So you can also do special programs, or Tarpanam, with thisclear Intent of calling upon those ancestors who died with those problems and help themto solve it in the space where they are now temporarily residing, and once their problems are solved,then your problem will be solved. How do we solve their problem? Just the offering donewill do the job. So it’s important for those of you who are wanting relationship, or arefacing problems in relationship, must want to take advantage of this upcoming two weekperiod of â€˜Mahalaya Amavasya’, the â€˜Mahalaya New Moon Time’.
How to Overcome Infidelity In Your Marriage And Prevent Divorce
When someone you love betrays your trust,it can feel like an hopeless hurdle to overcome. But the truth is, with a little tender loveand care, and dedication from both spouses, it’s completely possible for your marriageto survive infidelity. My name is Brad Browning, I’m a marriagecoach from Vancouver, BC. You may recognize me from another one of my tutorials, or haveheard about my bestselling Mend the Marriage program, designed to help married coupleswork through their hardships and recommit to one another. But today I’m going to talkabout how to overcome cheating in your marriage. Before we get started it’s important tonote that before any progress can be made
in repairing the marriage, the unfaithfulspouse must first end their affair. Once that’s done, both spouses must commit to repairingthe damage, rebuilding trust, and working through the following steps to save theirmarriage and emerge stronger on the other side. Here they are:1. Openly talk about the affair. In order to move past the infidelity, it’simportant that both partners are given the opportunity to share their feelings and getthe insight they need to move on. The betrayed spouse should ask questions about the thingsthey need to know. For example, how long did
the affair last? Was it sexual or emotional?What was the extent of the lies that were told to conceal it? And is there any riskof an STD or pregnancy? Although they may have the urge to learn the xrated detailsof the sexual encounters, they shouldn’t ask. Instead of causing more unnecessary pain,keep the focus on the relationship, not the affair.It’s also important that the unfaithful spouse shares the thoughts and feelings theyhad that caused them to cheat. Doing so will help you both understand the underlying problemsyou face. 2. Practice honesty and work on rebuildingtrust.
It’s crucial that spouses provide all detailshonestly and completely, and take the steps necessary to prove their trustworthiness.Even though telling the truth can be tough, it’s been proven that couples heal betterafter an affair if the adulterous spouse supplies all of the information requested by his orher betrayed partner. If you never discuss it, you cannot recover. A willingness to talkabout the affair will rebuild trust, but if you leave out details and they come out inthe future, then your spouse will feel betrayed all over again. Another great way to work on rebuilding trustis by making sure that your actions match
up with your words. For example, if you say,quot;I love you,quot; back it up with loving actions. If you say, quot;I want our marriage to work,quot;then commit to being monogamous. There is nothing worse for your partner than to findout they’re being lied to. 3. Patiently face your feelings. Infidelity has a devastating impact on a marriage,but if you can stop and fully feel the heartache, you will be surprised at what is possible.Once you face your feelings and give yourself time to process them, they will begin to shift.It’s true you’ll never forget the affair, but with time, the painful memories will beginto fade.
The single best indicator of whether a relationshipcan survive infidelity is how much empathy the unfaithful partner shows when the betrayedspouse gets emotional about the affair. It can be frustrating to hear the same thingsover and again, but it’s important to be understanding of their feelings. After anaffair is over, a couple has a window of opportunity to fix what was wrong and make their marriagebetter than ever. However, the emotional reactions that are left over from the affair may standin the way. It’s important that spouses takes healing seriously and don’t try torush their recovery. Grieving together can help you let go of what’s lost to make roomfor your future together.