Hi everyone! it’s me shawna, and i just wanted to take this minute to give you a few book recommendations that I think are so important. We’re at the end of the year and I know a lot of people may be thinking about popping the question, or starting a serious relationship. I just want to provide to.
My favorites relationship or marriage preparation books. Now some of you may know, by trade I am a divorce mediator and I’m also working on my dissertation in conflict analysis and resolution and I’m dissecting some relationship and marriage preparation books. So my recommendations are based.
On the criteria those two experiences. So my first one, has been on the best sellers list for a long time and I think the first publication was in 1992, and it just keeps getting better and better. It’s written by family counseling by the name of Gary Chapman.
And you may have heard it. it’s the five love languages this secret to love that lasts. Now, what Chapman is done here is, as a practicing marriage counselor he recognized that there were the different ways people expressed love, and.
He realized that many couples that came into his office were actually miss understanding each other. and communicating their love that the way that they expected. So this book explains the five languages of love.
Which are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. You can see them listed on the back here. And so, he outlines the specifics how each love language is express and.
He also provides exercises with in each chapter that you and your significant other can work through it together. Now my number one choice if I had to choose between one or the other, would be this book by John Gottman The seven principles for making marriage work.
Now let me explain why i love this book. While I appreciate what Chapman is doing with helping us identify how we expressed lounge and to be considerate how other people express their love. I think that’s so important, it’s the language it’s how we communicate it’s how we feel appreciated, and it’s how we feel heard and understood.