If you want to get back together with yourex, but he or she is now dating someone new, then this tutorial is for you. In fact, I’mgoing to tell you how your ex’s new â€˜lover’ could actually help you win them back in thelong run. I’m Brad Browning, by the wayâ€¦ I’m arelationship coach and author of The Ex Factor, a guide that teaches men and women how torebuild a broken relationship and rekindle things with an ex. So, I should first say that this tutorial ismainly for those who broke up within the past year or so. The same things may apply if yourbreakup happened long ago, but that’s a
topic I’ll cover in another tutorial. Let’s start by talking about rebounds. In most cases, the new guy or girl your exis now dating is a â€œreboundâ€�. A â€œreboundâ€� relationship is essentially just what thename suggests: a â€˜quick fix’ for your ex to get through the sadness and lonelinessthat they are experiencing in the wake of your breakup. Keep in mind, by the way, that breaking upwith someone can actually be even more difficult and gutwrenching than being broken up with.That means that even though your ex may have
been the one to initiate the breakup, it’shighly likely that they are just as heartbroken as you are right now. So, what’s the easiest way to get throughthe difficult postbreakup emotions and sadness? Occupy your time and keep yourself busy byfinding someone new. In all likelihood, if your ex has â€˜replaced’you with someone new quickly after breaking up with you, then this person is probablyjust a â€œreboundâ€� to help them get over the breakup blues. And believe it or not, this rebound relationshipcan often be good news for you if you want
to get back together with your ex. I know what you’re thinking right nowâ€¦.you’re asking yourself, â€œhow the hell can my ex replacing me with some loser helpme get them back?â€� Well, the answer is actually fairly simple.First of all, assuming that this new person that your ex is dating is just a rebound relationshipâ€” some guy or girl that your ex met in a nightclub and hit it off with â€” then it’snothing serious. They’re probably not doing candlelit dinners at fancy Italian restaurantsâ€¦they’re just hanging out now and then, relying on the physical side of their relationshipto maintain the bond.
While it may be painful to hear that yourex is just seeing this new guy girl for the sex, that’s actually a good thing foryou. It means that they probably don’t have much in common, and they certainly don’thave the same kind of bond that you and your ex had. Most rebound relationships last 35 weeks.While that’s certainly not a hard and fast rule, it’s true for most scenarios. Thatmeans that it’s extremely likely your ex’s rebound relationship will be over soon. Oncethe rebound ends, your ex is going to have to face the reality of their situationâ€¦they’re single, lonely, and they no longer
have anyone to keep their mind off of you! While your ex has been delaying this inevitablesurge of heartache and loneliness, you’ve already been dealing with those emotions.Your ex’s rebound just delayed this, and now that the rebound is over, these emotionswill surface again. Now that your ex’s rebound relationshipis over, it’s time to pounce. Because your ex is depressed and lonely â€” and becausethey just spent a few weeks dating someone who wasn’t nearly as compatible as you wereâ€” you’re probably going to start looking like a very good option.