Is Your Ex Dating Someone New That Could Help You Win Them Back
If you want to get back together with your ex, but he or she is now dating someone new, then this tutorial is for you. In fact, I’m going to tell you how your ex’s new â€˜lover’ could actually help you win them back in the long run. I’m Brad Browning, by the wayâ€¦ I’m a relationship coach and author of The Ex Factor, a guide that teaches men and women how to rebuild a broken relationship and rekindle things with an ex. So, I should first say that this tutorial is mainly for those who broke up within the past year or so. The same things may apply if your breakup happened long ago, but that’s a.
Topic I’ll cover in another tutorial. Let’s start by talking about rebounds. In most cases, the new guy or girl your ex is now dating is a â€œreboundâ€�. A â€œreboundâ€� relationship is essentially just what the name suggests: a â€˜quick fix’ for your ex to get through the sadness and loneliness that they are experiencing in the wake of your breakup. Keep in mind, by the way, that breaking up with someone can actually be even more difficult and gutwrenching than being broken up with. That means that even though your ex may have.
Been the one to initiate the breakup, it’s highly likely that they are just as heartbroken as you are right now. So, what’s the easiest way to get through the difficult postbreakup emotions and sadness? Occupy your time and keep yourself busy by finding someone new. In all likelihood, if your ex has â€˜replaced’ you with someone new quickly after breaking up with you, then this person is probably just a â€œreboundâ€� to help them get over the breakup blues. And believe it or not, this rebound relationship can often be good news for you if you want.
To get back together with your ex. I know what you’re thinking right nowâ€¦. you’re asking yourself, â€œhow the hell can my ex replacing me with some loser help me get them back?â€� Well, the answer is actually fairly simple. First of all, assuming that this new person that your ex is dating is just a rebound relationship â€” some guy or girl that your ex met in a nightclub and hit it off with â€” then it’s nothing serious. They’re probably not doing candlelit dinners at fancy Italian restaurantsâ€¦ they’re just hanging out now and then, relying on the physical side of their relationship to maintain the bond.
While it may be painful to hear that your ex is just seeing this new guy girl for the sex, that’s actually a good thing for you. It means that they probably don’t have much in common, and they certainly don’t have the same kind of bond that you and your ex had. Most rebound relationships last 35 weeks. While that’s certainly not a hard and fast rule, it’s true for most scenarios. That means that it’s extremely likely your ex’s rebound relationship will be over soon. Once the rebound ends, your ex is going to have to face the reality of their situationâ€¦ they’re single, lonely, and they no longer.
Have anyone to keep their mind off of you! While your ex has been delaying this inevitable surge of heartache and loneliness, you’ve already been dealing with those emotions. Your ex’s rebound just delayed this, and now that the rebound is over, these emotions will surface again. Now that your ex’s rebound relationship is over, it’s time to pounce. Because your ex is depressed and lonely â€” and because they just spent a few weeks dating someone who wasn’t nearly as compatible as you were â€” you’re probably going to start looking like a very good option.
So, with your ex in a fragile state and looking for a quick fix to heal their heartache, you can pounce on the situation by reestablishing communication with your ex. Don’t mention their rebound relationship, and don’t tell them that you want to get back together. Instead, simply start talking with them again â€” in a casual, friendly, and upbeat way. The goal is just to remind your ex that you’re still around, that you’re still a great person with whom they once shared a deep romantic connection, and that getting back together with you is an easy and fast way to make the emotional pain go away. In a sense, then, you’re using your ex’s rebound relationship to make yourself look.
Is It Hopeless When To Give Up Trying To Get Your Ex Back
Hi! My name is Brad Browning, and I’m relationship coach and breakup expertâ€¦ if you’ve watched some of my other tutorials here on YouTube, you’ve probably heard me say that most relationships can be salvagedâ€¦ even months after a bad breakup, most people still have a very good shot at winning back their ex. Sadly, there are some cases where it really is a lost cause. Thankfully, it’s rare that I receive an email from someone whose situation is truly hopeless, but it does happen occasionally so I wanted to make a tutorial to help those of you who might be wondering if it’s time to give up trying to win back your ex.
Quite frankly, it’s not healthy to spend the rest of your life chasing after someone who simply isn’t interested in being with you, so at some point you will need to move on if you aren’t having any luck. And in a moment, I’ll give you some tips that should help you decide when it’s time to give up and get on with your life. Before I get into that, though, let’s start with some good news: there’s no â€œonoffâ€� switch when it comes to getting back together with your ex. Deciding that it’s time to move on doesn’t mean you’re shutting the door on that option forever. Now, just to be clear, if the situation becomes grim and your odds of success appear to very.
Slim, I do think there comes a point where it’s time to move onâ€¦ but just because you stop actively trying to get him or her back doesn’t mean that can’t happen down the road. Sure, you may choose to stop reaching out to your ex and to let go of the dream of getting back together, but you can still say â€œyesâ€� if he or she happens to phone you up one day asking to give your longlost love a second chance. Essentially, what I’m saying is that you can stop trying to get your ex back without actually ruining any shot of that ever happening.
Ok, so that’s the good news. Now let’s move on and talk about some of the things you should consider when trying to decide if you should give up and move onâ€¦ 1.) How Long Has It Been? There’s no magic formula to determine how long is too long when it comes to reuniting with your ex. I’ve had clients get back together with an ex they broke up with years agoâ€¦ and in many cases, time can actually be helpful, as it allows your ex to â€˜forgive and forget’ and gives you a chance at starting over with a clean slate. On the other hand, humans are naturally designed to conquer adversity and sorrowâ€¦ your ex.
Won’t spend the rest of their life thinking about you and dreaming about the happy times you had together. For the first few months after your breakup, your ex will definitely feel the pain and loneliness, just like you areâ€¦ but if it’s been many months or even a year, then those feelings will begin to fade, and that will hurt your chances of winning them back. If you and your ex were only together for a few months, and the relationship wasn’t particularly serious, then you probably only have a window of 2 or 3 months in which you will be able to realistically win him or her back. I know all of this sounds really technical.
And complicated, but if you watch the fulllength tutorial on my website, BreakupBrad , I explain everything you need to know about this subject, so head over there when you’re finished watching this tutorial. On the other hand, if you were married for years or your relationship was very serious and you spent a long time together, then you may be able to win back your ex after months or even a year apart. Essentially, the longer you and your ex were together and the more serious your relationship was, the more time you have to win them back. 2.) Have You Kept In Touch?.
How much time has passed since your breakup goes handinhand with another issue: how much contact have you had with your ex? If you and your ex continue to be â€˜on and off’ or you’ve spoken regularly since the breakup (which, by the way, I don’t recommend), then the amount of time that’s passed since your initial breakup will matter less than if you haven’t spoken at all. If your ex hasn’t taken the initiative to contact you for weeks or months, then that’s not a good sign. On its own, not hearing from your ex doesn’t mean you should just give up all hope, but if your ex isn’t trying to keep in touch or hasn’t taken any steps.