Okay the next big barrier to communicationis putting all the focus on ourselves. My sister has a philosophy that everybody inthe world walks around like these teeny tiny robots going quot;What about me…what about me…whatabout me…what about mequot;? And I think there’s a little bit of truth to it. And the quot;whatabout mequot; concept can get you into trouble, it can be a barrier. And what happens whenwe’re focusing solely on ourselves are these things. Sometimes defensiveness can occur,quot;Well why did you pick on me, why did you say that about me, well that’s not my fault,well I don’t know what you’re talking aboutquot;. Defensiveness because we’re thinking aboutourselves. We can also have a superiority,
quot;Oh well, I’m better than that anyway, I’mbetter than you, okay, I’m the bestquot;. Also a sense of entitlement and a sense of entitlementis quot;You owe me, so do it, okayquot;? This can create a barrier. And ultimately the ego canget in the way when we’re constantly thinking about ourselves because we’re focusing onevery aspect of how the relationship affects us. So obviously focusing solely on our selfcreates a barrier. How do we fix that? Well, we have to get a little empathetic. We haveto communicate, not focusing on only ourselves and what’s in it for us, but how does theother person feel, what does the other person need, what would it be like if I was the otherperson? And then that thought process takes
us out of our self and we’re able to havemore of an open communication and the barrier is gone..
Does Marriage Counseling Work The Answer Is Strange
So you’ve tried to make it work on yourown, but no matter what do you it seems like you’re marriage just isn’t getting better.A friend recommended marriage counselling to you, but you brushed off the idea, thinkingthat your marriage wasn’t that doomed. But now, after months of trying different tipsand ideas without results, you’re considering giving it a go. But does marriage counsellingactually work, or is it just a waste of time and money? My name is Brad Browning, I’m a marriagecoach from Vancouver BC, and I’m also author of a bestselling program called â€œMend theMarriageâ€�.
Today I want to talk to you about the insand outs of marriage counselling, so let’s begin with a few common situations. Your partner is ready to end the marriage,but you’re not. You’ve watched self help tutorials, read the books and even turned toyour friends and family for advice. You’re at the point where your spouse isn’t evenspeaking to you much anymore, and when you do talk, every conversation ends in a an argument.Or maybe you never argue at all because your spouse doesn’t want to talk anymore. Youdidn’t see this coming, and even if you did there was nothing you could do to changetheir mind. Your situation right now is painful,
but you desperately don’t want to separateand you truly believe that your marriage can be saved. Traditionally, couples in crisis are advisedto attend â€œmarriage counsellingâ€� or â€œcouples therapy.â€� In these sessions the couple wouldwork with a counsellor who creates a safe environment, open for honest discussions abouttheir marriage. Together they look for the root causes of their problems, and may concentrateon improving certain areas of the relationship. These areas include: communication, conflictresolution, forgiveness, trust, commitment, intimacy and others depends on your personalsituation. Essentially, the marriage counsellor
provides the tools a couple needs to confronttheir marital issues, and a recovery plan. If these are done properly, it can be helpful. For marriage counselling to work, both spousesmust be willing to attend, participate, and work hard on facing your issues. More importantly,they must also both believe that their marriage is salvageable and worth saving. It is sometimesextremely difficult to convince your ex to go down this route. So before you dump thousands of dollars intomarriage counselling, you might want to consider investing in my Mend The Marriage program.This is a program that I’ve poured my heart
and soul intoâ€¦ and it will give you andyour spouse get a second chance at lifelong love. In fact, my program has been so wildlysuccessful that it alone has helped save thousands of marriages without marriage counselling.The great thing about it is…you don’t need don’t need your spouse’s effort rightnow and you don’t need to wait around for a marriage counsellor to help you. If youwant to learn more details about my Mend The Marriage program, you can watch the free tutorialpresentation on my website, MarriageGuy . Again, the URL is MarriageGuy . Alternatively, you can sign up for my personalcoaching program. So if you’re dead set
on getting a personal coach, then please considerme as an option. I’ve been a relationship coach for over 10 years and I promise youthat my coaching program is much more affordable than the thousands you’ll be spending ona marriage counsellor. To learn more about my personal coaching program, please visitMarriageGuy /coaching. Again, that URL is MarriageGuy /coaching. But if you think you’ve exhausted all otherpossible solutions and you’re dead set on hiring a marriage counsellor, then you shouldask yourselves the following questions: Are you and your partner willing to change?What is the depth of your marital problems?