Divorce rate in california is how much now? well, in 2013 (we told everybody in 2014 that the statistics said 75%), but just based on how busy I am, I would say that we probably are still in that ball park for sure. So 75%. Yes. Staggering number. That’s absolutely insane to me. Are there any statistics that, you know, talk about the financial consequence of a divorce? Is there an average cost or anything like that? Well, again, I’m hoping we’ll do a future.
Show here on this with the new 2014 statistics. but the average litigated divorce costs a hundred thousand dollars on each side. So a total of 200,000 dollars. And it can take anywhere from a year and a half to 3 years to sometimes longer just depending on the complexity of the case, your attorney’s schedules, the court calendar, and there’s so many variables that are involved that can really drag that out and make it last a long time. So let’s print that down because I can’t really imagine a divorce on each side costing a hundred.
Thousand dollars just to litigate. there’s got to be more into that equation. is it also selling of a home or splitting assets? Or is that just the true cost of legal fees? That’s usually the true cost of legal fees. On there, maybe a forensic accountant involved in that scenario, and that can be expensive. Or a quadro meeting to be done to divide a pension plan. So it’s all divorce related. It does not necessarily mean that all that money’s going in the attorney’s pocket, but it’s related to the conclusion of that divorce.
Wow! i don’t even know how people can afford to get a divorce. I know. You would think that with the financial consequences that a divorce carriers, that people would figure out how to stick it out and not get to that level Or, use mediation as an alternative because it’s much more costeffective. Okay. So let’s talk about that for a second. Mediation, as I know it and as you explained earlier, but just a recap, is basically the.
Couple to jointly go to one person and talking about whatever their issues are and try to revolve something. Do they, in mediation, come in with their needs or a list of their wants? Or do they come mostly and say, Colleen, tell us what we deserve because we can’t decide on our own. It’s probably a little bit of a combination of both. Sometimes people will come in and say, We’ve already talked about X, Y, and Z, and we know what we want to do with that. So we have these outstanding issues that are.
D, e, and f and we’re going to need your help with that. and sometimes they’d come in and they have no idea what to discuss, because this is the first time their doing it. And I’ll guide them through the process and they usually do it issue by issue so that it doesn’t get as overwhelming. And before the show, we talked a little bit about other mediation companies, and you were actually kind of shocked yourself as to how little they do in comparison to what you do. Break that down for us and explain what a.
Good mediator should do for you all. okay. some things that you should look for ideally working with an attorneymediator, because they can give legal advice. And that’s huge when you’re going through the divorce process. You need to have someone there who can tell you what the law says and explain it to you. So that’s first and foremost that I think people should look for. You want it to be as much as a onestop shop as possible, so that you are working primarily with your mediator. You’re not also having to go meet.
With a financial adviser to figure out how to divide a 4o1k or prorate a pension. you’re not having to go work with a CPA to figure out whether or not you should be claiming your child on your taxes, or your spouse should. Or who’s going to claim the tax deductions for the home, and things like that. And those are all things that I provide as part of my service. And then I even go so far as to have my notary certification so that we don’t need to bring in a notary at the final signing. And I’m just able to do everything. And it.
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Translator: albana telhai reviewer: fex thaqi Pse tradhtojm? Dhe pse njerzit e lumtur tradhtojn? Dhe kur themi pabesi, far nnkuptojm saktsisht? Nnkupton nj bashkim, histori dashurie, seks me pages, nj dhom chati, nj masazh me fund t lumtur?.
Pse mendojm se burrat mashtrojn nga mrzija dhe frika e intimitetit, por grat mashtrojn nga vetmia dhe etja pr intimitet? Dhe a prbn nj afer gjithmon fundin e nj marrdhnie? Prgjat 10 viteve t fundit, kam udhtuar npr bot dhe kam punuar gjersisht me qindra ifte t cilt kan qn shpartalluar nga tradhtia.
sht nj akt i thjesht shkelje i cili mund ti vjedh nj ifti marrdhnien e tyre, lumturin dhe thelbin e identitetit t tyre: nj afer. E megjithat, ky akt ekstremisht i zakonshm sht kaq pak i kuptuar. Pra, ky diskutim sht pr cilindo q ka dashuruar ndonjeher. Tradhtia bashkshortore ka ekzistuar q kur u shpik martesa,.
Po kshtu dhe tabuja, kunsaj. N fakt, tradhtia ka nj kmbngulje q martesa mund vetm ta ket zili, aq e vrtet sht kjo saq, kjo sht urdhresa e vetme q prsritet dy her n Bibl nj her pr kryerjen dhe hern tjetr vetm pr t menduarit. (T qeshura).
Pra, si mund ta pajtojm at q ndalohet universalisht, dhe po universalisht praktikohet? Prgjat historis, burrat praktikisht kishin licens pr t tradhetuar me pasoja minimale, dhe t mbshtetur nga nj mori teorish biologjike dhe evolucionare q justifikonin nevojn e tyre pr t bredhur,.
Kshtu q standardi i dyfisht sht aq i vjetr sa dhe vet adulteria. Por kush e di se far ndodh n t vrtet atje nn araf, apo jo? Sepse kur vjen fjala te seksi, presioni pr burrat sht q t mburren dhe ta egzagjerojn, por presioni pr grat sht ta fshehin, minimizojn dhe mohojn, ka nuk sht e habitshme kur kujton se ka ende nnt shtete.
Ku grat mund t vriten pr shmangje nga e duhura. Tani, monogamia nnkuptonte nj person pr gjith jetn. Sot, monogamia nnkupton nj person n nj koh. (T qeshura) (Duartrokitje) Them se, shum prej jush mund keni thn.
un jam monogam n t gjitha marrdhniet e mia. (T qeshura) Dikur, n fillim martoheshim, dhe bnim seks pr her t par. Por tani ne martohemi, dhe ndalojm s kryeri seks me t tjert.