Alright, i want to talk to you today about how to fix a broken marriage. now, the thing about marriage is that in a relationship, there’s endless possibilities in terms of things that can go wrong. You shut up! No, you shut up! No, you shut up! But the point is that as much as marriage go wrong and relationships go awry, there is always room to fix things. So I am going to walk you through a quick little tutorial on here about how to fix a broken marriage. Now, the first thing that you want to realize about marriage is that.
If someone is in an affair, there’s not much you can do about it. if they are in an affair, and they are not willing to leave that relationship, what option do you have left? Leave them. So that’s the first thing you should realize. If someone is in an affair, you should dump them and move onto somebody else. Now I know we all make mistakes, and if somebody makes a mistake, but they are genuinely willing to change, well, now that’s something you can work with now isn’t it? But, if they are not willing to change, dump them! I repeat,.
Dump them! the other thing that needs to be deal with is addictions. now if you have addictions whether its a tutorial game addiction, a pornography addiction, an alcohol addiction, or a drug addition, you need to get over those addictions. Those addictions will undermine your relationship. So if you have addiction in your life, start to deal with those addictions. Awe man! Did he really tell me I can’t play tutorial games anymore? Aaah! Aaah! That’s right men. If you want to have a good relationship with your wife, you can’t be addicted to tutorial.
Games and pornography. newsflash. the third thing that you can do to improve your marriage is work on your attitude. Now usually whether it’s a man or a woman in the relationship, usually someone has a really bad attitude if not both people, and you have to change the way that you are functioning in the relationship. You have to spice it up a little bit. Maybe calm down. Actually be fun to be around. If you are getting angry all the time, just chill out. If you’re constantly depressed, maybe start acting fun to be around. You have to.
Change up your attitude in the relationship and actually have a good attitude because that is going to be massively attractive to your spouse. Alright now we covered three of the big things that are. really. not gender specific. Just general guidelines if you want to have a good relationship which are pretty obvious. But, let’s get into some of the specific things that you can do if you’re a man or a woman in the relationship to improve the marriage. So let’s talk about men first. I’ve known this with a lot of guys.
Where they get into passive caveman mode where they basically stop giving a crap. they say hey woman, why don’t you go over there, figure stuff out, and then come talk to me when you’re willing to have a good relationship. This is not how relationships work guys. You actually have to make an effort to improve the relationship. So the first thing you can do is you can start pursuing your wife’s heart. Now, how do you do that? Well, it’s pretty simple. Take her on dates. Buy her gifts, and compliment her. Every day, tell her she’s beautiful. Tell.
Her that she looks gorgeous. tell her what you think about her and be honest with her. It also doesn’t hurt if you start taking care of your grooming. When you go into caveman mode, there’s a lot of guys that don’t take care of themselves. You have to wear nice clothes. You have to actually shave, get your hair cut, or take a shower. I’ve met guys that don’t take showers for almost a week, and they wonder why the person they are in a relationship with is mad at them. And I mean, come on guys, this is really basic stuff.
Grooming. get your grooming down. guys, seriously, i’m only going to say this once. but if you don’t have a job, go get a job. I’ve met so many guys that are married, their wives work, and they don’t work. And then they wonder why they don’t have a good marriage. I mean come on. It’s a guy’s job to provide for the family, work, and provide for the kids and all that. If you’re not doing that, then you are basically a crappy husband. So if you don’t have a job, go get a job. If you can’t find a job, figure something out. Start a.
Communication Techniques How To Save Your Marriage
Hi. i’m bruce muzik. and welcome to the third tutorial in the series about how to navigate through the treacherous stage of your relationship called The Power Struggle stage. And if you haven’t been watching the previous tutorials the Power Struggle stage happens right after the romance begins to fade away.
Usually ends up with one or both partners fighting for power inside the relationship. In this tutorial series we’re taking a look at how to navigate through this Power Struggle stage and turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy and connection. Create security and a romance that lasts a lifetime. In this tutorial, I’m going to be teaching you a powerful technique. for. how to cool off an argument.
When it starts spiraling out of control into a fullblown fight. But I feel obliged to issue a warning before I teach you this technique, because this technique is so powerful, that if you practice and master it, what you’ll probably find is the people you use it with will have a habit of falling in love with you. So. use it, very. wisely.
Let’s take a look at how a normal conversation can turn into an argument. and then spiral out of control into a fight. I’d like you to think of a good conversation like a good tennis match. .in that there’s two people playing. And there’s a ball that gets hit back across the net. The ball is a metaphor for the conversation or the message that’s being communicated between two people.
Like in any good tennis game, or any good conversation. when you hit the ball across the net the other person hits it back to you. And just like a good conversation; it would be no fun if you hit the ball across the net and the other person didn’t hit it back! In psychological circles.
Your willingness to hit the ball back is called your RESPONSIVENESS. It turns out that RESPONSIVENESS is one of THE keys to creating a longterm, romantic relationship that lasts. That is full of intimacy and connection. Let’s take a look at what a responsive conversation may look like.
(woman): honey i’m so tired. i had an exhausting day at work. (Man): I understand baby.I guess you’re not so excited about cooking tonight, right? (Woman): Yeah, you got that right. (Man): Well, why don’t we get takeout instead and then you don’t have to cook? (Woman): Oh! that sounds like a wonderful idea. Maybe we can rent a movie while we’re at it?.
(man): oh yeah, let’s get the one we were talking about the other night. .And the conversation is off to a great start with both partners responding to each other. On the other hand; here’s what unresponsive conversation might look like: (Woman): Honey I’m so tired. I had an exhausting day at work. (Man): Uh Huh.