What to Do If Your Spouse Cheated On You Ten Ways To Recover And Move On
Hello, YouTube! It’s Lisa Force here. I’m a relationship coach and dating guru, and in this YouTube tutorial, I’m going to be talking about what to do if your spouse is cheating on you. This is one of the most emotionally challenging ordeals that you can face in your life. However, in this tutorial, I’m going to teach you a few things you can do right now to help yourself cope with the situation. I’ll also go over some of the things you and your spouse can do to help you to move on (.or decide to break up if you choose to do so). So if your spouse has cheated on you and you just don’t know what to do, watch this tutorial.
To the very end and I guarantee you that there will be a few things that can you do to help and your spouse out. Tip number one â€“ accept the situation and give yourself time to emotionally settle. It can be the most difficult thing in the world to just suck up and accept, but in order for you to heal those personal wounds, you need to first accept the situation. Accept that you’re angry, sad, depressed, and in pain. Accept that you might even be confused, uncertain, and highly stressed. And, most importantly, accept that your spouse cheated on you. This is the first step before you can take action and move on.
Tip number two â€“ don’t make hasty decisions. When someone punches you in the face, your primal, gut reaction is to punch them back, right? In the case of your spouse cheating, your primal reaction might be to physically hurt your spouse, say horrible things to them, and file for divorce the next day. As difficult as it is not to do these things, you’re going to have to try. Take a moment â€“ right now â€“ to close your eyes and take a few deep breathes. Don’t do something that you’ll regret. Tip number three â€“ don’t ignore your body. It’s very common to experience sleep problems, shakiness, and nausea in reaction to your spouse cheating. Not taking care of your body.
During this very sensitive period can lead to you feeling much, much worse off than you are right now. Remember to get your exercise and drink plenty of water. Tip number four â€“ try and find some laughter in your life. It’s easy to just â€œdo nothingâ€�. It’s easy to just wake up and stay in bed, wallowing in depression and sadness. While at first, this is a perfectly acceptable reaction to something like cheating, but soon, you’re going to have to try and find some happiness. Watch a funny movie or TV show. Hang out with a friend that makes you laugh. Go out to a local comedy show. Laughter truly can be the best medicine! Tip number five â€“ seek help. There is no.
Need to go through this traumatic experience alone. You don’t have to seek professional help, but find someone who you know and trust. Tell them everything and count on them to provide you with thoughtful advice. Remember, people care about you! However, if you do feel like you do need expert marriage advice, then I encourage you to watch this free tutorial presentation by this relationship expert. To watch it, click on the annotation here or simply go to LisaForce Divorce. That’s LisaForce Divorce. In that tutorial, you’ll discover a complete, stepbystep process for fighting infidelity permanently and salvaging your marriage. Tip number six â€“ don’t be afraid to vent.
Your negative energy. Try and find an activity that you can do to help you take your mind off of things. A lot of my clients find it helpful to start a journal and writing down everything that they feel about their spouse’s unfaithfulness. But you don’t have to write. You can paint. You can work. You can read. Put all that negative energy into something positive. And while I can’t guarantee you that you’ll be happy, you’ll definitely find a sort of hidden solace in it. Tip number seven â€“ listen to your spouse. Your spouse probably isn’t having an easy time either, and he or she is probably desperate to give you some sort of explanation or long, drawn out apology. My suggestion in this case?.
Don’t lash out at him or her and stay calm. And believe it or not, but my honest suggestion to you is to say that you forgive them. That doesn’t mean you’re going to stay with your spouse, but forgiving someone is as much for you as it is for them. You’ll feel a slight sense of relief when you do it, and it will gradually push the relationship into the right direction whether you choose to stay together or not. Tip number eight â€“ give yourself some time away from your partner. Right now, it probably hurts to even look at your spouse, because the infidelity is all that you can think about. This simply won’t help you recover from this ordeal. If it’s possible, allow yourself.